Domestic Abuse Survivors Parental Issues Discussion
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I sincerely apologize for learning about the difficulties you’ve encountered as a single mother and victim of domestic abuse. You’ve had to make tough choices to ensure your kids’ welfare. Open communication about divorce and its effects on kids is crucial since it may support and empathize with those going through similar experiences.
Your finding that adjustment levels out after roughly two years aligns with studies on the effects of divorce on children. Both parents and kids may find it difficult to adjust to a new family structure at first, but many kids eventually change and feel stable.
Concerning your girls’ safety in light of the history of domestic abuse, it makes sense that you have limited their contact with their father. Your primary concern should be their safety and well-being, so it’s encouraging to learn that the violent relationship might have less impacted on your youngest daughter because of her age when you left it.
Seeing that you were able to locate some materials that recognize the difficulties of divorce and the possible relief it can provide in abusive households is very encouraging. Since every case is different, divorce may be required to safeguard children’s welfare when subjected to abuse or dangerous circumstances.
The websites you recommended appear to include important information about the causes of divorce and its effects on children. People in similar circumstances must seek assistance from organizations, therapists, or support groups to help them deal with the difficulties associated with divorce and its effects on children.
I appreciate you sharing your viewpoint and the resources you have discovered. Your ideas and experiences might speak to others going through a similar thing, providing them with comfort and understanding when things get tough.
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I have decided to discuss Divorce. I am a single mother and domestic abuse survivor, so this is something I am quite familiar with. I believe that saying that adjustment begins to level out after about 2 years. Yes, the father’s involvement or lack thereof does play a large part in this. My daughters are not allowed to be with their fathers unless it is under the supervision of his mother. He only sees them 1-2 times a year (usually during the holidays), his custody agreement is twice a month. My daughters (9 and 5) have adjusted to this, unfortunately. My youngest is less affected by this than her older sister as she was only 3 months old when I left and my oldest was 4.
- https://www.familymeans.org/effects-of-divorce-on-…
- https://ifstudies.org/blog/when-and-why-divorce-hu…
I was pleasantly surprised to see that not all of the websites about the effects of divorce on children said it was terrible. It was nice to see that on https://ifstudies.org/blog/when-and-why-divorce-hu… they mention that when the home environment is toxic, divorce can be a relief. My oldest daughter not only saw the abuse inflicted on me but also suffered abuse at her father’s hands as well.